Male or Female OB/GYN?
Yesterday was my dreadful visit to the Gynecologist. I'm not sure if there is ANYTHING I hate more in this world! Is there anyone out there that truly doesn't mind going? Am I the only one that makes a big deal out of this? Seriously?
Since I am on the subject, do you prefer a male or a female ob/gyn? I've been thinking about this and have to say that I prefer a male gynecologist.
Besides, if anyone is going to be putting anything inside of me, it better be a man! (Oh, and now since I have said this , I dont expect any more visitors to this blog. I'm sure I have ran all of you off...lol...)
Ok, lets just forgot the above sentence and move on... Anyhow, I have been to both male and female OB/GYNs but I have had much better and less painful experiences with the male doctors. Does anyone agree or am I totally screwed up?
I have been reading up on the psychology of gynecology...yes, psychology of gynecology...
Anyway, it seems, according to research, that everyone seem's to take issues with gynecology and there is research as to why men or women specialize in gynecology and why women prefer a certain gender over another when it comes to OB/GYNs. According to what I read, it all comes down to some pyschological and subconscious stuff (yeah "stuff" for lack of a more descriptive word...lol...).
Yesterday was my dreadful visit to the Gynecologist. I'm not sure if there is ANYTHING I hate more in this world! Is there anyone out there that truly doesn't mind going? Am I the only one that makes a big deal out of this? Seriously?
Since I am on the subject, do you prefer a male or a female ob/gyn? I've been thinking about this and have to say that I prefer a male gynecologist.
Besides, if anyone is going to be putting anything inside of me, it better be a man! (Oh, and now since I have said this , I dont expect any more visitors to this blog. I'm sure I have ran all of you off...lol...)
Ok, lets just forgot the above sentence and move on... Anyhow, I have been to both male and female OB/GYNs but I have had much better and less painful experiences with the male doctors. Does anyone agree or am I totally screwed up?
I have been reading up on the psychology of gynecology...yes, psychology of gynecology...
Anyway, it seems, according to research, that everyone seem's to take issues with gynecology and there is research as to why men or women specialize in gynecology and why women prefer a certain gender over another when it comes to OB/GYNs. According to what I read, it all comes down to some pyschological and subconscious stuff (yeah "stuff" for lack of a more descriptive word...lol...).
Since I am on the subject, do you prefer a male or a female ob/gyn? I've been thinking about this and have to say that I prefer a male gynecologist.
Besides, if anyone is going to be putting anything inside of me, it better be a man! (Oh, and now since I have said this , I dont expect any more visitors to this blog. I'm sure I have ran all of you off...lol...)
Ok, lets just forgot the above sentence and move on... Anyhow, I have been to both male and female OB/GYNs but I have had much better and less painful experiences with the male doctors. Does anyone agree or am I totally screwed up?
I have been reading up on the psychology of gynecology...yes, psychology of gynecology...
Anyway, it seems, according to research, that everyone seem's to take issues with gynecology and there is research as to why men or women specialize in gynecology and why women prefer a certain gender over another when it comes to OB/GYNs. According to what I read, it all comes down to some pyschological and subconscious stuff (yeah "stuff" for lack of a more descriptive word...lol...).
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I agree with you about the male gyn's. Definitely better. And yes, I get all worked up about it too.
I just want the best GYN. While I tend to be a little more comfortable with a woman who's not going to dismiss my PMDD as being in my head, over the years I have had a man, a few women, and one gay man. (Ooh, that came out badly, didn't it.)
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Hi! Just visiting your blog for the first time. I'm all for female OBGYN's. The one time I had a male one, he asked me for my spaghetti sauce recipe during my pap smear. It was weird.
I have had both male and female ... I like females, I find them more through and more in tune to the fact that it actually hurts to be poked and podded down there! Although I would not judge it by sex...hehe
Disagree. I'm much more comfortable with another woman who understands what exams are like, understands the woman body, understands birth, understands carrying a baby, and so forth. I don't equate putting in an instrument inside me with anything else LOL... That never crossed my mind. I'm more a person who likes to make connections and I feel like I can make a better connection with a woman in this area. Like someone else said, they also understand PPD and so forth.
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HHHMMM. Comment deleted. I can't imagine what was there! Anyway, I guess I would say a man. I hate going to the OB/GYN. But all the ones I have had are men. The whole putting something inside me thing isn't as bad as the breast exam. I hate when they are feeling all over it. It makes me want to puke!!!! I am always wondering what they are thinking:(
I've had both men and women gyno's. I don't have a male/female preference, but I've finally found one I adore and I've told her if she moves, I'll follow her anywhere. She's only like maybe a year older than me and when she delivered my last baby she was 7 months PG with her own
I have had both, male and female. I personally prefer female. Not for any specific reason other than I really like who I go to now and she happens to be female.
Just found your site after reading a comment you made over at Motherhood Uncensored. I am 5 foot tall, but a bit more than 85 lbs., but I digress...
I have been to both male and female OB/GYNs and I prefer female. All the males I have been to were not as gentle during the exam. Maybe I was more tense?
I don't mind going to any doctor except when I am actually sick. I even enjoy going to the dentist, but again only when I don't have a cavity. I think it has to do with me being a perfectionist, I don't mind showing off when I am healthy!
i used to go to only men and then when i miscarried and he didnt think it was a big deal, i made a switch to a midwife... but had to change to the head md of the office cause of previa... ended up having the female obgyn on call deliver my first... because of the high risk involved, i continued to see her... she's cool... not gay, like i thought she was... but she's married and has no interest in having kids... which to me is weird but she is so into her job. she's wonderful!
I prefer female also. They are much more gentle...the ones I've used anyway. The gal who delivered my baby is awesome!
I've always had a woman gyno until I got pregnant- and you know how they make you see everyone just in case- so you know every doctor since they do the "on call" thing with practices. Well, I found myself taking to one particular OB/GYN- who was---gasp! A MAN! He was goofy and funny and really made me feel at ease and not at all fat. Which was lovely since I was fully bloated with 15 extra pounds of pure bloat in addition to my 25 I had gained. SEXY.
Now, as the time approaches to go to my first GYNO appointment, I wonder.."man or woman?" as I struggle to find a gyno in my new state. On one hand, I have noticed that men have been more gentle. Women have been more judgemental of me. When one female doctor heard I wasn't working she informed me "I worked until I gave birth..." with that "look" on her face. Well la de frickin da for you lady. Another female (who delivered me) informed me when I called in labor that I should "drink a glass of water, you don't sound like you are in labor." If I had listened to her unsymmpathetic suggestion, I would've delivered at home!
I wonder what spurred a male doctor's interest in gynecology sometimes, but in the end, I don't think I care anymore since all the men I've gone to have been so much nicer. Man it must be.
I don't know if I have a preference. I just know that I am comfortable with the OB/GYN that I have now and he happens to be male. I don't know if I'd be comfortable with some other male or another OB/GYN that was female. I just know, I don't mind this one and I'm not switching unless he quits practicing or moves off island.
I prefer NO ONE messing with my nether regions. OK.OK.
I've had both male and females OB/GYNs and I have to to say that I prefer a female. Mostly because they can REALLY understand what a woman is going through. Male MDs may be compassionate and all, but unless you have a vagina...you just don't "get it".
Personally, I'm always weirded out by male gynos - namely, WHY are they interested in sticking things in the vagina all day long. Guess you could say the same thing for a woman gyno. Oh well.
I prefer a female, but if I found a great male gyno (which I never have) then I'd be okay.
I'd really prefer a midwife.
Good topic.
i dont like guy gynos doc at all. i have an old guy about 67 and he dosent wear gloves, theres no women doctor in the room, and he is careless and not gentel at all. i prefer women doctors then men. i wonder to, why on earth would a guy wanna have a job like that? i wouldent.
I get wierded out by male ob/gyns just on theory but in practice, during my pregnancy when I got stuck with one of each, (male and female) I definitely preferred the guy (he was my gp). He was really nice, and did his best to make the situation seem more comfortable. The female ob/gyn was a freaking robot. She treated me like I was on a conveyer belt, to be inspected and shipped off. She just jammed her fingers full force in there, and she didn't even talk to me, she just talked to the other nurses. Man I disliked her. Needless to say, as soon as my baby was born I never saw her again. I scheduled all my follow ups with my gp because he's cool.
I HAVE to disagree, because in my opinion a guy who wants to be an obgyn *must* have something wrong with him! The only guy that gets to look down there is *my* guy!
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I have had both. An old man, he was very good and understanding. I have had a woman deliver both of my children and she was very good. I have also had a few in between that were not good at all. I have a question though... I have moved to a new state and my now male obgyn (who doesn't make me feel uncomfortable) doesn't have a female nurse in the room during exams. I came from a state that I believe it was law...
Are there some states that have that as law and some that don't? Does anyone know?
Hi to all the moms out there, I am a male GYN and I hope no one minds my post on here.
In response to a couple of posts that wonder why males choose this specialty, one reason is because we enjoy women. I personally admire moms for what they go through, and I chose my specialty on that ground. Also, there's a strong desire to have diversity in this field in order to provide options for all the patients. On the other hand, I do understand the concerns that some women have.
Some side notes, the exam should NEVER hurt unless your doctor is doing something wrong.
In response to another mom, as males we are required to have a female nurse present in the room at all times and of course wearing gloves at all times is the standard of care--so if your doctor doesn't do it, I would seriously question his professionalism and work ethics.
On a personal note, all my patients have been satisfied with my work. Following each visit, I directly ask my patients what I could have done to reduce the stress during the exam and increase the comfort, and I have been following their advice closely. On the same note, if you are ever bothered by your physician PLEASE speak up, it's your body and your right.
Have a good day!
I personally have only gone to female OBGYN's because when I started seeing OBGYN's, I was in my twenties and the thought of having a male OBGYN prod at my Bijingo made me feel uncomfortable - as if the exam wasn't already awkward enough with a woman!
Now that I have hit the ripe old age of thirty, I feel that I have matured enough to realize that it doesn't matter what sex the doctor is, provided they give you the best care possible.
My husband is currently doing an OBGYN residency and before he had entered the specialty, I had tried to convince him not to go into this specialty because I believed that males in OBGYN were a dying breed. I figured most women had the same mindset as I do. I still think many do...but usually when they're in their late teens and twenties.
However, after having talked to many of my friends and acquaintances who have had children, they all didn't mind going to a male OBGYN. As a matter of fact, they had actually preferred the male OBGYN's to the females. I think once you're pregnant, you'll tend to want to choose a good and quality care OBGYN regardless of gender.
My husband decided to specialize in this field mainly because he enjoys bringing new lives into the world, the relationships he builds with the patients, and the technical aspects of OBGYN (Performing C-Sections, Hysterectomies, Circumcisions, D&C's, etc.) Oh, and not to mention the money is usually pretty good in this field (minus the malpractice insurance).
Being an OBGYN also allows for the them to enter into fellowships which gives them the opportunity to specialize in higher care such as Infertility and Endocrinology, Maternal-Fetal Medicine and Gyn Oncology.
Just remember, it's a medical profession, they're just trying to make a living just like any other medical specialty.
Another thing, while they are poking around down there and doing the vaginal and breast exams, they want nothing more than to be done with it as you do. It's not all pretty...
I trust my husband completely, and I know he is a very loving and caring guy. We are planning to have kids in the next few years and I'm glad I will have him by my side to walk me through the entire process.
Go with whoever you feel comfortable with, but don't cross someone off the list just because of their sex. There are good and bad female and male OBGYN's.
I have never been to an OBGYN and I am very scared. I have heard that some women like it and that is weird. what if i like it? Well I would like some of your help i am 18 and everytime i schedual i call in sick even if i am not. Please HELP! I AM SCARED!
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I am not a fundamentalist. I am actually a Southern Baptist. We need to stop assuming that the medical industry can do anything. Medical professionals often do things such as abortions that are against God’s will. I encourage you to look at Leviticus 18. It prohibits you to be naked in front of the opposite sex. It is strange that women are told as kids after a certain age that they cannot let men including their fathers see them. Then they are told later that they need to submit to intimate exams by a male doctor. It’s sickening to think that mothers rush their teen daughters off to their male gyn doctors, telling them it's ok, he's a doctor. Male gynecologists are not above men morally. They are men like other men.
The bond between a husband and wife is very special because each has pledged themselves to the other. This bond is strengthened and encouraged by the modesty of the couple. Saving some things to be admired solely by one’s spouse gives a sense of privilege, honor and intimacy. Anytime a person exposes their body to a member of the opposite sex they take away a part of the marriage intimacy and chance weakening the bonds between a husband and wife. This intimacy is further weakened by the encouragement of the medical establishment for women to expect to be examined intimately and for a woman to reveal intimate thoughts to her doctor, regardless of the reason for the visit to the doctor.
Well, you've got a fascinating blog on the psychology of gynecology. But you neglected one thing: a lot of women don't like male gynecologists because they just totally believe that the only man who should be there is her husband. My wife is Brazilian and she has told me the same. She would refuse to see a male even if it were a life-and-death emergency.
See, Doc, we both believe that any male inspecting a female's genitalia would be violating the SACRED husband and wife intimacy - which we both believe GOD recognized - but notice that nowhere in Scripture does he recognize a doctor's intimacy with a man's wife.
Also, why don't you study the effect male doctors have on a husband? You might be surprised that there are negative feelings that have nothing to do with jealousy but everything to do with the violation of his intimacy with his wife.
I am a psych major. Funny, I am a quiet and gentle man, even work in a children's ministry. However, the emotional effect of a male gynecologist examining my wife could very well bring a violent and dangerous response. I find this intriguing. Do you know where I may find any more articles on this effect?
By the way, I have no hard feelings toward you or male gynecologists just as long as they keep away from my wife. It's wonderful for me that she has the same strong convictions. I am just curious and surprised at the malevolent emotions.
I would appreciate a response as my wife has encouraged me to contact a male gynecologist who studies the psychology of gynecology. I forgot to tell you that she is working on her thesis in psychoanalysis.
Thanks,
Psychology student
I'm a married man and I don't understand why a man goes into OBGYN in the first place, at lest the specialty should be geared to accept women primarily and advocate for their recruitment and participation. I believe they all should be women, and as a former med student, Men are still men whether a MD or not. There are perverts in every profession, especially ones like medicine, science, academics and law enforcement, ministry and politics. Its due to the stress of the job, the authority, and lack of normal social relationships and support as you go through the process. Many MD women are out there as well, in a different way but nevertheless they are still female and that's better than a male OBGYN any day.
If women only knew what many male med students talk about after an obgyn rotation, then they'd have a different perspective as to whether a male or female obgyn is a better choice. But if you like being prodded by a man other than your husband, then go ahead. People leave their kids with ministers and
I'm a male 3rd year medical student on my OB/GYN rotation. I am interested in surgery, but my general surgery rotation did not involve as much medicine as I would have liked. I am interested in gyn oncology but I am extremely hesitant to consider an ob/gyn residency because of the stigma of being male. Reading this blog is not very reassuring.
To answer the question about having another person in the room during a pelvic exam…I do not believe it is technically the law anywhere, however most hospitals require it and most lawyers strongly recommend it.
I don't see male doctors.
Men have always had the choice of same sex Dr.
Its really only been the last 20 years that female doctors have started appearing...
I had a distressing incident with a male medical student as a girl in hospital and have avoided males in the medical world ever since.
I believe many women feel vulnerable and embarrassed during a gyn exam and it's incredibly important to trust your Dr.
A man could never understand or experience the same level of vulnerability - a rectal exam by a man or a woman might be awkward/embarrassing, but male patients don't have the worry of inappropriate behaviour.
There is no history of male or female doctors assaulting male patients. The issue is unique to the male Dr & female patient.
I believe the power dynamic between male doctor and female patient can be difficult for some women...some women will never feel comfortable with a male for intimate exams.
We've had some shocking cases in Australia. We have a haphazard chaperone system in this country.
We recently imprisoned a male dermatologist for shocking sexual assaults...
I have female doctors and I don't have to worry about any of this sort of ugliness...and I don't believe I have to justify my choice of Dr - it's my right to see female doctors.
Whenever there are cases of inappropriate behaviour or sexual assault, it's always a male Dr or male nurse or male orderly etc...
Thankfully, it's harder for male doctors to abuse these days...we have choice of Dr and women are more aware, the Medical Board has been forced to take a firmer stand and the Police and Courts have delivered justice to women by sending a clear message to other males who might be tempted to try the same behaviour.
If women choose to see male Dr's, I'd suggest you take your own chaperone.
Don't take any chances, once abused...you live with it forever....
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