The All-Day-Clingy-Cryer-Fit-Taker Toddler
My son is 23 months old but we are already experiencing the "terrible twos" and it all started around 19 months.
My toddler is clingy.
My toddler cries OFTEN throughout the day.
My toddler "takes fits" or "throws fits" or "has temper tantrums" or whatever it's called that toddlers do when they start screaming and crying and you dont understand what they are trying to say and when you try to calm them down or redirect them or even play with them they decide to throw their head backwards and slam it on the floor repeatedly.
PLEASE TELL ME I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO EXPERIENCES THIS ON A DAILY BASIS.
My other son did not do this at the toddler age so I wasn't expecting this. He was so easy to take care of and he loved to just play. Why can't my 23 month old be more like his older brother and just take it easy on me?
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My son is 23 months old but we are already experiencing the "terrible twos" and it all started around 19 months.
My toddler is clingy.
My toddler cries OFTEN throughout the day.
My toddler "takes fits" or "throws fits" or "has temper tantrums" or whatever it's called that toddlers do when they start screaming and crying and you dont understand what they are trying to say and when you try to calm them down or redirect them or even play with them they decide to throw their head backwards and slam it on the floor repeatedly.
PLEASE TELL ME I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO EXPERIENCES THIS ON A DAILY BASIS.
My other son did not do this at the toddler age so I wasn't expecting this. He was so easy to take care of and he loved to just play. Why can't my 23 month old be more like his older brother and just take it easy on me? >Go to the Mom blog Homepage
27 Comments:
OHHHHH no. My son didn't do this until he was three and is just in the past few months weening off of it. Not the clingy stuff but the tantrums. LOL. I've had terrible, exhausting threes. Sigh. So I guess I'll be ready for anything with the next one. :)
And I'm so glad your boards are back. What looser hacked into the system?????
Seriously people. Get lives!!!!
Hugs,
K
I have the same thing going on withmy toddler but he is more whiny than angry. It is so frustrating to have him whining at you wanting something but he won't tell you what it is.
I've been dealing with this for months with my 25 month old. You're not alone...I know how frustrating it can be.
My 20 month old goes back and forth. He's in a 'good' stage now, but I'm not holding my breath for the next 'bad' stage about to sneak up on me!
I hate that age. I *think* we are done with it. Mostly. Sometimes.
We have yet to experience this, however I am sure it is right around the corner!
Good Luck and try to keep in mind it can't last forever!
i dont really remember that stage with any of my 3... either it never happened or all the other crap they do has made it a faded memory!!!!
I feel your pain! My 2-year-old is a mama's boy and has to be with me all the time. On rare occasions he'll take off and play with his older brother. It's difficult to get anything done with him around because he'll just sit there and cry to be picked up. We also have a new baby that is 2-months-old and he hates the attention she gets from me. He's been clingy and crying a lot for about 6 months now.
Your son looks so much like my clingy one! I have 23 month old twin boys and they both throw tantrums. It's comforting just to hear others vent, but the frustration of it all can be unbearable. I've been trying to use Time Out consistently lately and it does seem to help a lot. I tell them I'm going to count to 3 and if they don't use their words by 3, they'll be in time out. I put them in their crib for a couple minutes (one boy at a time!) and then I greet them happily and they get a fresh start. I do it over & over if necessary & it works. But I have to keep on doing it every day and it is frustrating. I know the key is to not get emotional, but it's hard sometimes b/c they can make me crazy. But overall, I keep in mind that this is what's best for them and me, so I keep at it.
Try working in a preschool and being your child's "teacher" where you have to deal with not only your own winy, clingy toddler but up to 11 others!!! I love my daughter and I love my job....but sometimes I don't know how much more I can take!! :)
my kid use to do this too until i started busting his ass. screw the time out wuss stuff. as soon as i threaten a whippin, he straightens up. kids wouldn't be so horrible if parents werent afraid to punish them the right way.
I do not agree with hitting of any kind, I don't think making your child afraid of you will be good for anyone in the long run.
My daughter is very clingy and has started the tantrum thing she is 20 months. She is only happy in my arms so I do everything with her on my hip. It is very tiring and frustrating to make it worse, the only one she does this with is me. When she is with others she plays nice by herself.
signed:
1st time mommy
someone please help me! if anyone has any advise to me it would be great! my 15 month old son has gone from a joy of a child to a clingy, whiny child who won't eat all of a sudden! i am a first time mother and am seriously overlooking the thought of a 2nd. i spent the whole day with him in my arms today pointing to things that weren't there. couldn't put him down, couldn't put him in his highchair or play with him. it seems to be getting worse and worse everyday. my husband and i went on our honeymoon for a week when he was 8.5 months old and i left him with my parents, does anyone think us leaving him is the cause of this?? please help me.
That sounds a lot like my 13 month old. She is extremely clingy and is only content with me. If I leave the room or get up from being off her level she cries as if someone is hurting her. It is sooo overwhelming! Just this week I have decided to let her cry for a while while I am doing chores around the house. When she is crying and holding onto my leg I bend down and say, "Mama is doing the dishes. I can't hold you, you need to play." She, of course, cries. But over the last few days she has, a few times, whimpered away after a few minutes and started playing. I try to reward her afterward with reading a book to her and let her know she did a great job playing. Hope this idea helps you!
Hi everyone and thank you for your feedback and comments. I didnt realize this post was getting so much attention.
Our son's excessive crying is going away now that we have found out that alot of it was due to food allergies and severe stomach problems. I think it is also due to the stage/age your child is at the time.
When my son is being clingy or crying, I stop what I am doing and give him what he needs, MY ATTENTION. I hold him or rock him or do what he wants for a little while until he settles down then I go back to doing what I need to do. I hope this helps some of you.
and to the anonymous butt spanker, I'm sorry but I do not agree with you in anyway. Children this young definitely should never be spanked. I do not spank either of my children.
I don't agree with spanking children. I don't want my kids to fear me....
ANYWAYS, totally understand what y'all are going through. Reading this has helped me realize it's not just me!
My son is 13 months old and omy goodness.... He does not like it when I try to do anything but play with him or hold him! He was so great about being by himself until about 6 weeks to 2 months ago. Since then, I have been struggling to get stuff done and to put him down-even if it is just to make lunch! I can only take him crying for so long and it stresses me out. Plus I don't want him to feel abandoned. I can't wait till this is over! My husband and I are taking a trip to Washington state(we live in the northeast now) for our 5th wedding anniversary. Our two children are staying with grandma and grandpa for 9 days, so maybe this will help! I'm going to miss them like crazy, but I need the break! I stay at home most of the time and my hubby works a lot of overtime so we can buy a new house soon. Plus, I am going to college part time to become an RN. It's sooooo much to do, but it will be worth it in the end! Thanks for letting me vent! Have a great day everyone:-D
My sweet little girl is 11 months 3 weeks and 2 days and now suddenly over the last two weeks is a fit throwing little monster. She forcefully screams and arches her back about almost anything. Anyone have ideas? she's so young I don't want it to get worse.
hi, i am here because i am at my wits end after another exhausting day with my 13 month old daughter. i love her so much but i have been so perplexed by her behavior lately that i have started to worry that something might be wrong with her.
after reading these other comments i feel better. i just broke down and cried tonite while feeding her dinner. she was screaming/crying at me. and it was just a tantrum, over nothing. she had done it earlier in the car, as she does every time i try to drive anywhere with her. i don't know how to handle her outbursts. i feel like a failure as a mother. like i must be doing something wrong. in her nightime bath she grabbed aggressively at my face, which she knows better not to do. we have worked on " gentle touches" and i finally lost it and smacked her little hand. she burst into tears and i felt terribly guilty. fortunatly she was over it in less than 30 seconds and was onto the next thing.
but i feel awful and i need some advice!
My 17 month old son is a little terror. Everyone is always amazed at how 'rotten' he is. At home, at friends places, in the street, at the grocery store he is terrible. He throws huge fits, screaming and crying and hitting me. Arching his back and trying to get down. You let him down and he takes off running. He's very difficult to deal with, and extremely clingy too. I can't leave the room without him having a meltdown. He has been like this for a few months. Everyone tells me the terrible 2's are worse but I can't imagine how much worse he can get. He's very frustrating but I love him more than anything. I wouldn't EVER spank him. I think kids these ages are too young to be spanked anyway, they're just babies.
I basically googled 'all day clingy crying fit-taking toddler' (because that IS my 16 month old)and your blog came up. Thank goodness for that! Everyone always tries to reassure me that 'it is just a phase' or that 'you are not alone'; sometimes, though, it feels like I really am the only one and this 'phase' is going to last forever! My son spends a significant portion of a day (weekends) or evening (during the week) crying, screaming and clinging to my leg. I'm always playing with him and reading to him so I can't see where this neediness or insecurity arises from. He is extremely active and sensitive at the same time; he cries at mealtimes, when changing his diaper, when I don't pick him up for the 100th time, when he trips, when he is frustrated with a toy, when another toddler comes over to play. He's been at daycare for 4 months and apparently is quite contented there, though is jealous of the other 2 children. I would love any advice as I really want to provide some comfort to my seemingly angst-ridden child!
My partner's ex told her she was a bad mother and that he'd report her to child services because their (almost) 3 year old daughter won't go to sleep and will cry like crazy unless my girlfriend is around her. Said my girlfriend isn't doing enough to control their daughter's behaviour. How ridiculous is that?
She had to pick her up from her ex's at 2 AM today because neither her, nor his mother, could handle her waking up in the middle of the night.
I have twin 23 month olds they both have horrible tantrums, they throw their heads into the floor and walls and try to pull thier teeth out. The worst part is it's all for nothing they get attention, I can be in walmart and all of the sudden they start screming and won't stop, What do I do?
It is quite nice to read we are not the only parents with a little screamer! Our second is 20 months old and he was happy to play with his sister until a couple of weeks ago... Then out of the blue he will not leave my side and screams and cries until I pick him up. There are times I really have to take a deep breath and sit back for a minute so I do not lose my mind...
I do want to share one resource that has helped me deal with the challenges of raising my daughter (3.5 years) and son the screamer: THE NEW STRONG WILLED CHILD book on CD written by Dr. James Dobson. He has some really practical advice on what to do with these little kids and is overall very encouraging for very tired parents. It is a Christian based book, but regardless of what your faith/beliefs he can help with some great insight and specific ways to deal with your little ones! Best of luck to all and I am so glad to know I am not alone with this and others experience the same thing!
I thought I was the only one doing it tough. My little one just turned two, she just cries for nothing, have taken her to many specialists and nothing. We never go out, stick to a routine otherwise she freaks out. We are sure that something must be wrong - happy children don't cry like this? Any ideas :)
I have a 16 month old son who has been extremely clingy for months now. He fips out if I leave his side and I'm at my breaking point. I respect that everyone has different opinions about discipline but spanking your kids will not make them afraid of you, I will make them respect you. I was spanked and I never felt afraid of my parents, I love them more than anything and I was well behaved...some of my friends dont want to spank and their children are little monsters because they don't care if they have to stand in the corner for 5 minutes...big deal, they will however think twice if they know they are going to get their butt smacked.
My son went through that at the same age but he never stopped he is now 2 1/2 and still does it he is actually in anger managment
I have been crazy with my 19 month old boy. I thought is was a boy thing b/c my 5 yr old girl did not do that!! He cries almost all day, clings to my every move. Grabs at me when I'm cooking trying to clean or using the bathroom. Drives me insane. Up until about a month and a half ago, I could put him in his bed and he would fall asleep. Now either he screams himself to sleep in his room or I rock him to sleep. He is very strong willed and hates the word no...throws him into tantrum mode! Good to know he is normal with this and I will definatly take some of the advise! Thanks for the insight because I was ready for the crazyhouse!
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