Self-Censoring is No Fun!
Sometimes I wish my blog was anonymous. Disclosing information would be so much more satisfying and writing would be easier. But since this blog is connected to and is a feature of one of my websites ( ContestForMoms.com) I feel like I must censor myself. This blog address was given out to friends and family early on and it is readily available for anyone to see if my real name is typed in almost any search engine. This is scary sometimes. You just never know who is reading your blog ( I know my younger sister & husband does and that's ok), and I seriously would never want to hurt anyone's feelings on purpose but at the same time it would be nice to vent every once in a while without fear of hurting anyone. I try and respect my family's & my husband's family's privacy as much as possible and I will try to continue to do so.
Writing like this doesn't always give me a chance to be myself. For the most part, it makes me look like I live a normal semi-cookie cutter life. However, I can assure you that is not the case. My life is far from perfect. So I guess I'm trying to find a balance. Does anyone else feel like this?
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Sometimes I wish my blog was anonymous. Disclosing information would be so much more satisfying and writing would be easier. But since this blog is connected to and is a feature of one of my websites ( ContestForMoms.com) I feel like I must censor myself. This blog address was given out to friends and family early on and it is readily available for anyone to see if my real name is typed in almost any search engine. This is scary sometimes. You just never know who is reading your blog ( I know my younger sister & husband does and that's ok), and I seriously would never want to hurt anyone's feelings on purpose but at the same time it would be nice to vent every once in a while without fear of hurting anyone. I try and respect my family's & my husband's family's privacy as much as possible and I will try to continue to do so.
Writing like this doesn't always give me a chance to be myself. For the most part, it makes me look like I live a normal semi-cookie cutter life. However, I can assure you that is not the case. My life is far from perfect. So I guess I'm trying to find a balance. Does anyone else feel like this? >Go to the Mom blog Homepage
Writing like this doesn't always give me a chance to be myself. For the most part, it makes me look like I live a normal semi-cookie cutter life. However, I can assure you that is not the case. My life is far from perfect. So I guess I'm trying to find a balance. Does anyone else feel like this? >Go to the Mom blog Homepage
23 Comments:
I do know what you mean. Although I vowed from the beginning not to say anything about anyone on my blog that I wouldn't say to their face, I didn't plan to publicize it among family. But now my parents read and so do my in-laws, so while I don't often need to vent, I don't even have the option.
Have you checked out Her Bad Mother's Basement? She set it up as an anonymous forum to write about those topics that you just can't write about on your blog. Check it out!
I do watch what I say to a certain degree. There are some things that I would love to scream about on my blog but I am afraid of hurting someone. So, I created another blog. Not my real name or anything. Noone knows about it except 1 friend who I have had for years and she never judges me. I have only posted one time on it but boy did it feel good!
Well, you know I do per my last couple post hence my urge to create an annonymous blog just to vent. However, the issue with that, at least for me is, I barely have time as it is to update the one I have!
What I have done is create a site specifically for my daughter only to give to family in hopes of rerouting them!
Good Luck!
i was JUST talking about this exact subject with someone this morning.... good luck wtih finding the balance-
It's hard. I agree. When you are a writer (As I like to think of myself - though many would disagree I'm sure - ha ha) is to find that balance...but also to get to the point where you feel like, "Fuck it. I'm going to write what I want to write."
It's a different line for everyone that's for sure.
We are all trying to find a balance. Advice from our peers help to easy our stress.
We love our children, and we want what is best for them but sometimes it is difficult to please everyone. I think our children are our future, and they come first.
Most of want to have smart children, but we have to start at a very early age.
I found an interesting article that I would like to share. I hope it helps. It is not easy to raising children, but we can do it together.
Building Baby's Intelligence
Nobody knows about my blog except my huz. I dread the day that someone I know stumbles across it.
I feel for you!! Everyone is aware of my blog. Once we return to Canada I may have to start up one of my own and keep the one I have as Becca's! I can never complain about the in-laws!!! Or my husband for that matter!
I know what you mean. I don't really connect my site with my blog but I do my blog to my site. When I start this new blog it's going to be for my site more and not personal. Does this make sense? It's late sorry!
hey..
i have the same problem. i dont have a website, but what started out as a private vent space has been discovered by friends and family and now i have nowhere to go with my troubles!!!
Yes, you are not alone. It is hard when people "find" you out. My family has taken to reading mine and that's fine, but I find that I feel like I am writing for my grandma sometimes, instead of myself. But hey, if it makes her smile, than who cares? But, yes, it is a censorship of sorts.
Carrie
BTW, Honestly I use your boards more to vent because my blog is read by family as well!
No one knows about my blog but it is still difficult. I have to lie to my husband when he asks what I am doing on the computer all the time. I tell him I am reading blogs but he has no clue that I actually have one. I wouldn't be able to be honest. I like it this way. I NEED it this way! Maybe you could create another one and keep it anonymous.
I guess I started a blog initally and I won't give any of my family the address for it. Its secret...well open to strangers and some online friends that won't be sharing it with my family.
Tough to balance wanting to vent and peoples feelings.
I know what you mean. My family and in-laws have my website address too. I started the blog mainly so out of town family could keep up with Justice. But, I then realized how great blogging was for so many other reasons including getting advice from others. The sad thing is some things I want advice on have to do with family and I don't want to take a chance of hurting someone's feelings. So, I completely understand where you are coming from.
Yeah another BTW. I have had to go back and erase certain things 2 different times because of friends and family reading this. Well everything on my site is better because I think of the computer. Remember I said I couldn't post on my blog for my site? Well now I can. So obviously my other computer has issues!!!
Exactly how I feel! I know that various members of my husbands family read my blog and have come to realise that alot of local people do to through finding out about it via fiends of mine. Becasue of this I have to censor myself. I would never dream of being very intimate or personal. When I began my blog and was more naive about it I did used to write a bit more close to the heart. Now its become a more light hearted waffle. This is ok but there are times when I feel like a rant or a moan about someone and I know I cant.
I recently discovered via my tracker that my arch enemy (ex best friend who hates me) reads my blog regularly. This shocked me to the core to begin with and has most definatley altered the way I write and my content.
Ultimately I wish I could be more flamboyant, more vulgar and more honest. I worry about how dull I sound most of the time.
Yup, I hear ya'. But look at it this way...
You should never put something in writing that you may regret later or may bite you back in the butt. It's just like any writing.
When I really need to vent, I talk it out with my dog. She keeps secrets very well.
I'm glad I didn't send out my url to everyone. Actually, I did send it out to my mom, but she's not so web savvy and I think she missed it.
I know how you feel though - there's always HBM's basement :) Self-censoring is tough.
I have written about this myself on my blog. I certainly feel the same way. Everyone I know reads my blog. My husband has suggested I should start an anonymous blog so I can really say what I want. Maybe you should consider that? I know I am...
thanks for your comments everyone. I have thought about the anonymous blog but I already have so many blogs I dont know if I have time for another but it sure would be more fun for me. :)
Awhile back I created an anonymous blog for myself because I had a lot of things to say that I didn't feel comfortable with just anyone reading. I couldn't keep up on it anyway. I can barely keep up on one.
I do- I have things I want to rant about but censor myself a little bit- about my family mostly because I know they read it. And Tim. He reads it and if I divulge too much about when I'm mad at him, he gets upset that I'm sharing so much. So I have to be vague. Her Bad Mother created a blog where you can secretly divulge or get things off your chest. I'm thinking of going there to purge my thoughts lol.
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