Random Mommy Confessions
Some stuff I've just got to get out and think about.
1.) We are STILL co-sleeping. Although I do believe in and support co-sleeping, I didnt think I would be doing it when my son was 5 1/2 years old. I need some good advice on this because I have tried everything. This is not good for me, this is not good for them and it's not good for my marriage.
2.) I feel terribly guilty if I tell the boys that I am busy and can't play with them right at that moment. I feel even worse when they get upset over me not playing at the exact moment that they asked me too. I know so many of you have expressed feeling this way too but the guilt is still there. Alot of times I feel the need to overprotect my kids and do everything they want to make up for my childhood. This is not healthy.
3.) I have shouted at my kids after being frustrated from a thousand times of telling them "No!" or "Stop doing that!" or whatever else it may be. I know its not effective and its not good and I feel terrible about it but I have done it. I try not to do it at all but sometimes that's all I can do with 2 strong willed children. I don't mean that I do this every day but it has happened.
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Some stuff I've just got to get out and think about.
1.) We are STILL co-sleeping. Although I do believe in and support co-sleeping, I didnt think I would be doing it when my son was 5 1/2 years old. I need some good advice on this because I have tried everything. This is not good for me, this is not good for them and it's not good for my marriage.
2.) I feel terribly guilty if I tell the boys that I am busy and can't play with them right at that moment. I feel even worse when they get upset over me not playing at the exact moment that they asked me too. I know so many of you have expressed feeling this way too but the guilt is still there. Alot of times I feel the need to overprotect my kids and do everything they want to make up for my childhood. This is not healthy.
3.) I have shouted at my kids after being frustrated from a thousand times of telling them "No!" or "Stop doing that!" or whatever else it may be. I know its not effective and its not good and I feel terrible about it but I have done it. I try not to do it at all but sometimes that's all I can do with 2 strong willed children. I don't mean that I do this every day but it has happened. >Go to the Mom blog Homepage
1.) We are STILL co-sleeping. Although I do believe in and support co-sleeping, I didnt think I would be doing it when my son was 5 1/2 years old. I need some good advice on this because I have tried everything. This is not good for me, this is not good for them and it's not good for my marriage.
2.) I feel terribly guilty if I tell the boys that I am busy and can't play with them right at that moment. I feel even worse when they get upset over me not playing at the exact moment that they asked me too. I know so many of you have expressed feeling this way too but the guilt is still there. Alot of times I feel the need to overprotect my kids and do everything they want to make up for my childhood. This is not healthy.
3.) I have shouted at my kids after being frustrated from a thousand times of telling them "No!" or "Stop doing that!" or whatever else it may be. I know its not effective and its not good and I feel terrible about it but I have done it. I try not to do it at all but sometimes that's all I can do with 2 strong willed children. I don't mean that I do this every day but it has happened. >Go to the Mom blog Homepage
6 Comments:
1. Co-sleeping or sleeping kids in your bed when you are both sleeping all of the time is not good in my experience. You love your kids and ocassionally having them in bed with you once in a while is great, but you really don't sleep when they're in there with you.
Our first child who is 9 years of age now slept with us off and on until he was about 6. You feel ran down all of the time.
You are right....it's not good for your marriage because you do not get to talk with your husband.
2. Balancing everything is a trick and from what I know always will be. Like right now, I have been sick, unable to work, help take care of the kids very much and it has really switched everything around for me and my husband. Who knows when it will get back to normal or whatever normal was. It's a high wire act with no net and sometimes some things are out of our hands and we have to do the best we can.
I know how you feel.
We never really did the co-sleeping thing...so I cannot help. except to say if it is not working for you and your marriage it has to change. I guess really structuring it and saying no. Tough one!
I yell sometimes after being pushed too much by the kid. It happens no matter how hard we try not to do it. I am so an anti-yell, be crazed parent. I try to remain calm, but everyone has their limits.
I do find sometimes, when that limit is reached and we talk about it after, my daughter is cooler about it than she was before, so maybe reacting sometimes, is not always counter-productive.
You know, I actually once yelled "No, I don't want any more hugs from you, I need some personal space!" to my almost 6 year old.
I felt guilty about that for months. But I needed some personal space. We are all human. We are all perfectly imperfect.
I don't know what to tell you about the co sleeping. That's just why I don't do it. Because I don't want to go thru breaking them from it. My kids sleep in their own room.
As far as yelling I lose it all the time. All kids are different and everybody has different patience levels. i am not that patient of a person. Thing is, it's my kids and I will raise them however I want to. I feel guilty sometimes but it goes away.
I just think if a child needs to be shouted at then they need to be shouted at.
The whole not playing with them at that exact moment...well I hope that gets better. I actually feel the same way about that. I will be washing dishes or doign something else and they want me right then and there. I always say "In a minute". Then a inute turns into 10 then an hour then all day. I feel bad:(
I am sooo guilty for doing all 3 :( However, I do not think co-sleeping is that bad, not for my marriage anyway ;) My eldest is almost 6 too, so I plan to let him have his own room by 7.
Can't help with the co-sleeping. My space means so much to me that I couldn't imagine doing it (although on occasion we do slumber parties.) Everyone yells, don't beat yourself up over it. Also, I don't play right away all the time but I do some super fun stuff (fairy hunting, root beer tree watering) so in my book it makes up for it. We are just too hard on ourselves as mothers - ever hear dad's talk like this?!
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