What Makes You Like A Mom Blog?
Being a mom blogger and a mom website owner for the past few years has given me the incredible opportunity to connect with moms from all around the world. It has shown me that I can actually be friends with females. I have never had any trouble being friends with males. ( Hello? Psychologist? Help? )
Growing up I had lots of girl friends but as I got into my late teen years I had less friends because I didn't fit in and I didn't conform. I was always told that I didn't need anyone and I was taught to be very independent even if it meant no friends. Being taught that along with how I was brought up made me very insecure.
When I went off to college, I had several acquaintances but I really wanted a true friendship. The people I called my friends were people I would talk to, meet up with and have lunch with but we didn't really connect beyond that. For about one year I felt like I had finally made a real true friendship but after college we both moved away.
As the years have gone by, I have had several acquaintances and still do but no real best friend except for my husband but sometimes a woman needs another woman to talk to and sometimes you need someone to complain to about your husband. My family (mostly my younger sister and my MIL) has been graced with my complaining and talking when no one else was there to listen.
To be honest, I have had ample opportunity to make friends with other moms and my husband's friends wives but for someone reason the connection just hasn't been there and I don't want to fake a friendship for the sake of just having a friendship.
Anyway, the Internet has been a lifesaver for me. I finally feel like I have true friends even if it isn't real life friends. But if you think about it, it is a real friendship and a real relationship because we are real and only separated by a computer and distance.
Since I've been a mom blogger for a while, I've noticed some things happening. I've noticed that bloggers pick and choose other bloggers over others and many out there form groups. I'm not sure if this is knowingly or unknowingly but this does exist and I am sure I am guilty of this too.
What I want to know is, what makes you connect with and/or identify with another mom blogger? What makes you like them? What turns you off? Is it random?
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* Go check out our top mom blogger of the week over at the Toddler Blog.
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Being a mom blogger and a mom website owner for the past few years has given me the incredible opportunity to connect with moms from all around the world. It has shown me that I can actually be friends with females. I have never had any trouble being friends with males. ( Hello? Psychologist? Help? )
Growing up I had lots of girl friends but as I got into my late teen years I had less friends because I didn't fit in and I didn't conform. I was always told that I didn't need anyone and I was taught to be very independent even if it meant no friends. Being taught that along with how I was brought up made me very insecure.
When I went off to college, I had several acquaintances but I really wanted a true friendship. The people I called my friends were people I would talk to, meet up with and have lunch with but we didn't really connect beyond that. For about one year I felt like I had finally made a real true friendship but after college we both moved away.
As the years have gone by, I have had several acquaintances and still do but no real best friend except for my husband but sometimes a woman needs another woman to talk to and sometimes you need someone to complain to about your husband. My family (mostly my younger sister and my MIL) has been graced with my complaining and talking when no one else was there to listen.
To be honest, I have had ample opportunity to make friends with other moms and my husband's friends wives but for someone reason the connection just hasn't been there and I don't want to fake a friendship for the sake of just having a friendship.
Anyway, the Internet has been a lifesaver for me. I finally feel like I have true friends even if it isn't real life friends. But if you think about it, it is a real friendship and a real relationship because we are real and only separated by a computer and distance.
Since I've been a mom blogger for a while, I've noticed some things happening. I've noticed that bloggers pick and choose other bloggers over others and many out there form groups. I'm not sure if this is knowingly or unknowingly but this does exist and I am sure I am guilty of this too.
What I want to know is, what makes you connect with and/or identify with another mom blogger? What makes you like them? What turns you off? Is it random?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
* Go check out our top mom blogger of the week over at the Toddler Blog. >Go to the Mom blog Homepage
Growing up I had lots of girl friends but as I got into my late teen years I had less friends because I didn't fit in and I didn't conform. I was always told that I didn't need anyone and I was taught to be very independent even if it meant no friends. Being taught that along with how I was brought up made me very insecure.
When I went off to college, I had several acquaintances but I really wanted a true friendship. The people I called my friends were people I would talk to, meet up with and have lunch with but we didn't really connect beyond that. For about one year I felt like I had finally made a real true friendship but after college we both moved away.
As the years have gone by, I have had several acquaintances and still do but no real best friend except for my husband but sometimes a woman needs another woman to talk to and sometimes you need someone to complain to about your husband. My family (mostly my younger sister and my MIL) has been graced with my complaining and talking when no one else was there to listen.
To be honest, I have had ample opportunity to make friends with other moms and my husband's friends wives but for someone reason the connection just hasn't been there and I don't want to fake a friendship for the sake of just having a friendship.
Anyway, the Internet has been a lifesaver for me. I finally feel like I have true friends even if it isn't real life friends. But if you think about it, it is a real friendship and a real relationship because we are real and only separated by a computer and distance.
Since I've been a mom blogger for a while, I've noticed some things happening. I've noticed that bloggers pick and choose other bloggers over others and many out there form groups. I'm not sure if this is knowingly or unknowingly but this does exist and I am sure I am guilty of this too.
What I want to know is, what makes you connect with and/or identify with another mom blogger? What makes you like them? What turns you off? Is it random?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
* Go check out our top mom blogger of the week over at the Toddler Blog. >Go to the Mom blog Homepage
16 Comments:
That is really honest post. I really can identify with EVERYTHING you are saying except I didn't go to college. I don't have any friends really either. They have all grown apart from me. My friends are all in my family. I did connect with one person who I say is my best friend but now she lives in Wisconsin and we are slowly drifting apart. I have some friends I have met online but I still have not made the mark you have. As far as blogging I don't do it much so I don't come across many new blogs. I think it just depends on the post and then I make a comment and they comment back and eventually keep coming back. I come to this blog because you are the one who inspired me to get a blog. I really think you have been a big inspiration on me. Thanks!
Well, as you know, I don't have female friends either. I have 1 who I can count on. That's it. I just like to read someones blog who appears honest. Not ones who try and act like Supermom. You know, perfect house, perfect kids. Gag. I like the everyday stories from other moms. You know, like what happened that day.
I can completely relate to you in this area. I have one close friend, but she is single and works full-time; therefore, we don't have much in common besides similar interests and pasts.
As for what attracts me to mommy blogs? I prefer to read ones where the mothers do not complain about their husbands or children. I would rather hear the joys of parenting and fun stories with some serious posts mixed in the middle. It turns me off when mothers constantly gripe about life. I don't find that very uplifting.
This blog is a place where I can express myself.
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Wow! That's a tough question. But I guess I would say that there's something in the writer's "voice" that speaks to me. Maybe we think alike, or we share a similar sense of humor or I feel like we could be friends in real life. If I had to pick just one thing, it would be that I feel like I can be myself with them; that we are "kindred spirits". Of course, not every blogger I read is a kindred spirit in which case, it might be one of the other reasons I listed. I'm not sure there's really any rhyme or reason, though, I do find it fascinating. Some day a great book will be written about the social psychology of blogging.
i've never been part of a blogging group but I suppose I connect with other bloggers like I do people... when there is a connection!!! :)
Sorry it's been so long but I wanted to pop in and say hi and catch up.
Hugs to you,
Kdubs :)
What a great find your site is, especially since I'm pregnant with my first boy (and you've lived to tell the tale).
I am SOO grateful for the mom blogger community. While I find that many women in my everday life put on happy faces and never show signs that they're struggling, it's always great to read about other women with my same questions and struggles!
I just asked myself this question last Friday (of course it has taken me this long to comment!)
It is a lot to keep up with and sometimes I feel a tad bit overwhelmed. But those are the times that I have to remind myself of exactly why I write. It's not for stats it's to journal.
Great questions! I don't think it is totally random. Sometimes it has to do with a person's particular writing style. If I like it I am likely to come back. Excessive swearing is a big turn off. You have got me thinking though and I may write a post about it.
I am a pretty independant person too. I tend to read the blogs of people that seem nice and write intellegently. I can't read a blog full of nothing and typos. I want a bit of substance with a lot of fun.
I am not a mother yet, but I love reading mom blogs. One day, I'll be a mom anyway and it would be wise for me to see other moms' life not only my mom's so I know how it really is to be a mom. So I can be objective about it.
Since I haven't read that many blogs, I can't answer your other questions. Maybe later on, I will.
Pics of kids do attract me. Other than that, a good sense of humour and friendly blogger mommies makes me return to their blogs.
I have a similar experience with girl friends as you. Although I have had many casual friends over the years, few people have become important. When I became a mom, I was determined to get out there, meet other moms and have friends. We move a lot because my husband just finished his phd and will complete his post-doc next year.
I found my blog gathers around me this amazing group of smart, cool, sometimes like minded moms that have awesome ideas, advise and experiences.
What draws me to your blog specifically (because each blog has unique things)?
I like how driven you are for you kids. You work hard so you can be at home, you want the very best for them and you are not willing to accept any less. You are very connected to your kids. I like that and I want to continue to be that connected to Becca as she grows older.
Ok I am going to stop rambling now!!! Sorry to go on and on.
Thanks everyone for your comments. They have been very helpful and have helped me understand more. And, thanks for the very nice comments too! Those are always very much appreciated! :)
I do read a wide variety of blogs, and I especially like the ones where I have some sort of regular interaction with the other blogger (where I know they read my posts and comment at least semi-regularly). That seems to develop a rapport and often even a real friendship.
I think the big thing that turns me off is very judgmental people. Other than that, I do seem to gravitate more toward the moms that provide a mix of content on their blog -- stories of their own families mixed with prose and commentary. Variety is the spice of life!
Mutual interest. Humor. Children around the same age.
I think the internet and blogging world is a fantastic thing. In my community I feel limited in the kind of friends I can find. Most of the friends I've known my whole life have either changed in ways I don't want to be a part of, or live a childless partying existence I cannot be a part of. The internet and blogging world is like opening up a door to a whole new area of life where you can find friends you actually have something in common with without expending 2 years of energy getting to know them just to find out you don't like them.
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