Now Is When I Stop Being Depressing
A little bird came and told me today that my blog has gotten rather depressing and bordering on "emotional mess"*. Seriously, though, if you have read my comments section from my last post you might actually guess that it was my husband. Tee Hee...
Anyway, I've been outed. First of all I should explain myself. I don't blog to complain and I certainly don't want to sound like I am depressed or unhappy because I am NOT. I am far from unhappy but that doesn't mean that I won't occasionally be whiney or make a complaint or be an emotional mess at times. And, ya know, sometimes if I'm lacking in inspiration I'll just find something to complain about and I really shouldn't come here to do that. It's not fair to my readers or my family.
In the blogosphere, moms and happy don't seem to mix very well. If a mom constantly gabs about how happy she is and how perfect (I promise I'm not perfect) her life is and how great her kids are, other bloggers get turned off and fast. Maybe thats why sometimes I feel it necessary to share a complaint even if it's not so ,dare I say, spot on.
Realistically speaking, I am a happy person and I can find the positive in almost anything. I love my life and I love my children. I love who my husband is and who I am. I'm not saying we are perfect. I'm not saying my kids are either but they sure are close. Aren't yours?
Furthermore, we aren't living a glamorous life unless you think glamorous is living on a work at home income while the husband completes his PHD. Is it a bad thing if you are happy with who you are?
*And, today was also the day that I revealed to my husband my crush on the Dirty Jobs Host eating chinese in our pajamas hillbilly style...at the restaurant.. Was that a good idea?
Overall, I just dont want my readers to get the wrong impression about me and I hope who I truly am comes across in my writing even if it makes me that "happy mommy blogger" that everyone loves to hate.Labels: blogging, emotional mess, mommy, motherhood, stay at home mom
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A little bird came and told me today that my blog has gotten rather depressing and bordering on "emotional mess"*. Seriously, though, if you have read my comments section from my last post you might actually guess that it was my husband. Tee Hee...
Anyway, I've been outed. First of all I should explain myself. I don't blog to complain and I certainly don't want to sound like I am depressed or unhappy because I am NOT. I am far from unhappy but that doesn't mean that I won't occasionally be whiney or make a complaint or be an emotional mess at times. And, ya know, sometimes if I'm lacking in inspiration I'll just find something to complain about and I really shouldn't come here to do that. It's not fair to my readers or my family.
In the blogosphere, moms and happy don't seem to mix very well. If a mom constantly gabs about how happy she is and how perfect (I promise I'm not perfect) her life is and how great her kids are, other bloggers get turned off and fast. Maybe thats why sometimes I feel it necessary to share a complaint even if it's not so ,dare I say, spot on.
Realistically speaking, I am a happy person and I can find the positive in almost anything. I love my life and I love my children. I love who my husband is and who I am. I'm not saying we are perfect. I'm not saying my kids are either but they sure are close. Aren't yours?
Furthermore, we aren't living a glamorous life unless you think glamorous is living on a work at home income while the husband completes his PHD. Is it a bad thing if you are happy with who you are?
*And, today was also the day that I revealed to my husband my crush on the Dirty Jobs Host eating chinese in our pajamas hillbilly style...at the restaurant.. Was that a good idea?
Overall, I just dont want my readers to get the wrong impression about me and I hope who I truly am comes across in my writing even if it makes me that "happy mommy blogger" that everyone loves to hate.
Anyway, I've been outed. First of all I should explain myself. I don't blog to complain and I certainly don't want to sound like I am depressed or unhappy because I am NOT. I am far from unhappy but that doesn't mean that I won't occasionally be whiney or make a complaint or be an emotional mess at times. And, ya know, sometimes if I'm lacking in inspiration I'll just find something to complain about and I really shouldn't come here to do that. It's not fair to my readers or my family.
In the blogosphere, moms and happy don't seem to mix very well. If a mom constantly gabs about how happy she is and how perfect (I promise I'm not perfect) her life is and how great her kids are, other bloggers get turned off and fast. Maybe thats why sometimes I feel it necessary to share a complaint even if it's not so ,dare I say, spot on.
Realistically speaking, I am a happy person and I can find the positive in almost anything. I love my life and I love my children. I love who my husband is and who I am. I'm not saying we are perfect. I'm not saying my kids are either but they sure are close. Aren't yours?
Furthermore, we aren't living a glamorous life unless you think glamorous is living on a work at home income while the husband completes his PHD. Is it a bad thing if you are happy with who you are?
*And, today was also the day that I revealed to my husband my crush on the Dirty Jobs Host eating chinese in our pajamas hillbilly style...at the restaurant.. Was that a good idea?
Overall, I just dont want my readers to get the wrong impression about me and I hope who I truly am comes across in my writing even if it makes me that "happy mommy blogger" that everyone loves to hate.
Labels: blogging, emotional mess, mommy, motherhood, stay at home mom
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14 Comments:
I don't think you should apologize for posting your honest feelings or how your days are going. ;) I don't ever see it as whiney or depressing.
hmmm ... I for one find the negative, depressed, talk about neglecting their kids, moms that blog awful. I do not read them, I do not support them in anyway. I have tried to see what people see in certain mom bloggers and I just do not get it.
I enjoy reading about REAL moms. I am real on my blog, I am a happy, positive person with some issues *blush* and some times it is not all good ... that is real ...
I am glad you are who you are ... that is why I come to read, why I registered for sites you were involved in and try to be a supportive reader ... Be yourself ... and I find comments come to commenters .... the more you comment the more people will come by.
I like to here about real life stuff and let's face it...it's depressing sometimes. My blog title is called Mommy Needs To Vent because I want to go there when I have something to say.Anyhow, that logo is still not showing up on my end. I even tried the IE browser and the other computer so I guess I won't ever get to see it:(
Nell,
I'm not really apologizing...but I do want people to know that I'm not an unhappy or depressed person. It was brought to my attention, however, that via my blog I was somewhat unhappy from the past couple of posts and I certainly do not want to come across that way. That's not me. But at the same time I'm not perfect..I just dont want to be the complainer anymore... I want my kids to be able to look back on this (if its still here) and see their life and mine chronicled in a positive light. I dont want them to think I was miserably depressed and not able to deal with motherhood. I also dont want them to feel like they were or are a burden in any way because that's also very far from the truth. I want them to be able to read what I write and laugh as well as be touched by how wonderful, adventurous, & wacky their lives and my life was as their mother. I don't want them to question, "Was Mom happy?". I want them to know and be able to see that show through in my writing that I AM happy and truly blessed to have my life and my children.
Chelle, thanks for your comments too. I understand what you mean about the other blogs. I dont get it either and I should never try to be anyone other than myself.
I agree about the comments..I just wish there was more time in my day. Sigh...
Tasha,
Life is depressing sometimes but most of the time mine is not...well almost 99% mine is not. I just want my blog friends, visitors, family, and friends to know that I am happy but I'm also not perfect...Additionally, sometimes it's best for a person's family that they not share some things even if they are REAL. There is a limit on things that I share and that's where I want to leave it.
I don't know what is up with that logo... So, you dont see the idols in the picture?
I understand that, looking back, you noticed a trend in the last few posts and wanted to correct it - it wasn't an accurate representation of how you feel overall. Please feel assured that, to me, a regular reader, you don't come off as a mom that is unhappy, depressed or complaining. I can relate to just about everything you've written about lately and I am a wonderfully happy mother, too. It's a fact that motherhood can be isolating and being needed so much can take a toll - it doesn't mean that motherhood isn't one of the greatest experiences of life. The ups and downs, the good the bad, the challenge and the struggles are part of what makes it so amazing. You're a great mom, a thoughtful blogger and it sounds as if you have a very attentive and caring husband. It means a lot that you care about what your readers think about what you write, but don't stress too much.
And enjoy that weekend with hubby!
Nope. I don't know what the deal is. I don't think I have this problem on any other blogs. I REALLY want to see it!!!!!! It is driving me nuts! I wish I didn't even know there was one up there. It just says on my end...American Idol 6 Blog...the same color as the background. Who knows.
Hey, go to idolbloglive.com. They talked about me today and even have a screen capture of the site and what the new logo looks like. What you need to do is probably clear your cache.Either way, very strange...
Ok. I saw it. That looks great! I love it!
I am with Chelle I don't really care for the depressing blogs. I want to keep a happy attitude and that is much easier when I read happy things.
Please E-mail Me as I wonted to Know If you would like a new link for your blog? And No I am not seeling anything. It is a information site.
opps my E-Mail is Nscttrbrn@aol.com
Man, I wish I could undepress myself so my blog would'nt be so depressing, but I write what I feel and I write what's going on with me in my world. I am happy with who I am, I love my family and my life. I have a great job, healthy happy kids, and I'm happily married. But I do get depressed. Clinically depressed. As in, the illness.
And I write about it. I hope that doesn't put me in the category you refer to here... But then, if it does- I guess it does. All we can do is be who we are and do it as honestly as we can.
Krista,
I love your blog and I like the person I have come to know through your blog and no it's not you or anyone who talks about depression. Thats not what I meant.
Thank you for your honesty too. :)
I just found out I am pregnant with my 2nd son. . .I cant shake the blues. . .i dont know if I can handle 2 boys I really dont
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