A Personal Ad For Mommy Friends
The husband and I was having a conversation about friendships a couple days ago and he says that when couples have kids that they no longer want nor have time for real friendships with other people. I have to believe that he’s not right because I want some new friendships. And, believe me, I’ve tried. I’ve sifted through neighbors and soccer moms and just whatever I can find in this small town but nothing has stuck.
I’ll just go ahead and post my friendship personal ad here and you tell me whether I’m being crazy and unrealistic.
“Hi. I’m a married mom of two boys looking for friendships with married couples with one or more children for dinner dates, get-togethers and adult conversations.
Must have similar interests & values such as
An education
Full set of teeth
You must actually love & care for your children
A Sense of Humor *Thanks for reminding me Leslie
Open-mindedness, progressive, honest, liberal. Need I say more?
*Ability to make a cocktail a PLUS when Mommy has had a bad day
Is this too much to ask? I’m quite easy to please don’t you think? Or am I?
Edited to Add: After writing this, I saw that the Zero Boss had talked about a quite similar topic yesterday, Meeting Other Couples... and I wanted to link to it. It's nice to know we're not the only ones who stink. Of course, he could probably care less considering I'm a Southerner ;)
And, in his comment section I found this, Friendless With KidsLabels: friendships, mommy, mommy friends, motherhood, zero boss
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The husband and I was having a conversation about friendships a couple days ago and he says that when couples have kids that they no longer want nor have time for real friendships with other people. I have to believe that he’s not right because I want some new friendships. And, believe me, I’ve tried. I’ve sifted through neighbors and soccer moms and just whatever I can find in this small town but nothing has stuck.
I’ll just go ahead and post my friendship personal ad here and you tell me whether I’m being crazy and unrealistic.
“Hi. I’m a married mom of two boys looking for friendships with married couples with one or more children for dinner dates, get-togethers and adult conversations.
Must have similar interests & values such as
An education
Full set of teeth
You must actually love & care for your children
A Sense of Humor *Thanks for reminding me Leslie
Open-mindedness, progressive, honest, liberal. Need I say more?
*Ability to make a cocktail a PLUS when Mommy has had a bad day
Is this too much to ask? I’m quite easy to please don’t you think? Or am I?
Edited to Add: After writing this, I saw that the Zero Boss had talked about a quite similar topic yesterday, Meeting Other Couples... and I wanted to link to it. It's nice to know we're not the only ones who stink. Of course, he could probably care less considering I'm a Southerner ;)
And, in his comment section I found this, Friendless With Kids
I’ll just go ahead and post my friendship personal ad here and you tell me whether I’m being crazy and unrealistic.
“Hi. I’m a married mom of two boys looking for friendships with married couples with one or more children for dinner dates, get-togethers and adult conversations.
Must have similar interests & values such as
An education
Full set of teeth
You must actually love & care for your children
A Sense of Humor *Thanks for reminding me Leslie
Open-mindedness, progressive, honest, liberal. Need I say more?
*Ability to make a cocktail a PLUS when Mommy has had a bad day
Is this too much to ask? I’m quite easy to please don’t you think? Or am I?
Edited to Add: After writing this, I saw that the Zero Boss had talked about a quite similar topic yesterday, Meeting Other Couples... and I wanted to link to it. It's nice to know we're not the only ones who stink. Of course, he could probably care less considering I'm a Southerner ;)
And, in his comment section I found this, Friendless With Kids
Labels: friendships, mommy, mommy friends, motherhood, zero boss
>Go to the Mom blog Homepage
7 Comments:
That's not asking too much. It's hard to find good friends. If I had an ad, it would read something like this:
Hi! I'm a married mom of one brilliant child looking for someone to chat and eat delicious, preferably chocolate desserts with. The ideal friend will have passion for parenting and a great sense of humor. A love of reality television and a willingness to wear the "st ends" half of a best friends necklace and sing cheesy soft-rock duets in the car with me is a must. Smokers and people who think wolves are the coolest animal ever should not respond.
Julia and I haven't had a lot of luck making new friends in our new town. It's very small and rural, so that makes it even more difficult. We joined the nearest YMCA two towns over and start some classes this week. Hopefully we'll find some friends there.
I feel for you!
Love the ad and I love chocolate too. Thanks for reminding me of a sense of humor. How did I forget that? I added it and linked to you. Thanks!
I totally understand. The entire reason I started blogging was to make connections with other moms, just because my in-person friendships were lacking. My husband and I have a lot of friends in town, but they're all childless couples, and over the past two years we've grown apart.
Not their fault or ours - they simply are used to doing things at the last minute, and we can no longer do anything without advance planning and a babysitter in place.
I want more friends who are married with kids, but they are very hard to find. I'm not sure where they're all hiding, but I hope they come out soon!
Christina, YES, good friends are very hard to find.
Even though I didnt start blogging for friendships, it has been helpful for online friendships.
hey Amanda, hubby and I have experienced this as well. and so many other couples have too from what I understand. What I noticed first was that if ppl are not mommy's or daddy's that they don't take as much interest in being your friend like they used to. Like the kids are going to interfere in you all hanging out. Like you are this different person all of a sudden. Hey there, I'm still Jennifer, sure I have emmi now but doesn't that make who I am 2X as better bc my little emmi just loves to entertain you and play! lol. but i guess not...then well, I really don't have a interest in being your friend. oh well. so send out an ad for me and my hubby too...lol. we would love to be able to find other moms and dads who are like us. working not only at work but around the house too. just would like some friends to hang out with everyone once in a while for some adult time. esp after emmi goes to bed. haha. stay up watch late movies or play board games even. hubby and i aren't too picky! i swear! and we don't want clingy friends either, so no worries we won't hang onto you for dear life! lol. we have one set of friends we like to have dinner with every now and again but they live a ways from us, so we hardly ever even get to see them. hmm...couples w/ kids wanted here! lol.
Ok I like that ad! But you must add to it same country would be good, we live in Canada and it might make a night out a little pricey ;-) LOL.
I have found that since we have moved here it has been hard finding new friends. I'm a real bad introvert so that does not help :-(
Heck I would be your friend, especially since we both have two boys. I have not had too much trouble finding mommy friends because I am very active in my church. That is pretty much how I met all of my friends since I was new to the area when I was pregnant with #1.
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