The Shy Child
Our oldest son is smart, athletic, and loving but he is also a shy child. I hate to label him like that but there's really no way around it. He could probably be more accurately labeled as a highly sensitive child. There is a test online at The Highly Sensitive Person where you can get a general idea whether your child is a highly sensitive child or not as well as determine if you have those characteristics. My son scored enough to be considered an HSP and I scored almost enough to be considered an HSP.
Our son interacts wonderfully in small groups or with family. For example, if there is one child on the playground he has no problem interacting with them. However, if you place him in a big group of 10 or more kids he doesn't do well. When he is put into a new situation or in a large group of kids, he becomes withdrawn and fails to interact. It's like he's overstimulated.
I never imagined having such as shy child because my husband is extremely outgoing and even though I was shy as a child, I'm no longer shy as an adult. Our nearly 3 year old is also very outgoing and makes friends very easily. Sometimes our soon to be 3 year old can even be a little obnoxious.
It's hard as a parent to sit and watch your child exhibit shyness and not really understand why they feel and act that way other than being given the explanation that it's mostly genetic. He also lacks some social skills because at 6 years old he has never been in daycare, preschool, or any other structured daily activities other than sports. I have been fortunate enough that both of our kids have not had to ever go to daycare or preschool since I work from home. But looking back maybe our son needed preschool to prepare or to at least get some structure. I know as he enters Kindergarten this August it will probably take him a while to adjust since he will be one of a few children who has never been in this kind of environment. I know he will get through it. Everyone does. But it's something as a parent that I worry a lot about. I just want him to be normal, have fun, do what he wants to do, and overall not be restricted by his shyness.
If you are an HSP/shy person or have a shy or highly sensitive child, what is working for you and your child? What books have you read and what do you recommend?
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Our oldest son is smart, athletic, and loving but he is also a shy child. I hate to label him like that but there's really no way around it. He could probably be more accurately labeled as a highly sensitive child. There is a test online at The Highly Sensitive Person where you can get a general idea whether your child is a highly sensitive child or not as well as determine if you have those characteristics. My son scored enough to be considered an HSP and I scored almost enough to be considered an HSP.
Our son interacts wonderfully in small groups or with family. For example, if there is one child on the playground he has no problem interacting with them. However, if you place him in a big group of 10 or more kids he doesn't do well. When he is put into a new situation or in a large group of kids, he becomes withdrawn and fails to interact. It's like he's overstimulated.
I never imagined having such as shy child because my husband is extremely outgoing and even though I was shy as a child, I'm no longer shy as an adult. Our nearly 3 year old is also very outgoing and makes friends very easily. Sometimes our soon to be 3 year old can even be a little obnoxious.
It's hard as a parent to sit and watch your child exhibit shyness and not really understand why they feel and act that way other than being given the explanation that it's mostly genetic. He also lacks some social skills because at 6 years old he has never been in daycare, preschool, or any other structured daily activities other than sports. I have been fortunate enough that both of our kids have not had to ever go to daycare or preschool since I work from home. But looking back maybe our son needed preschool to prepare or to at least get some structure. I know as he enters Kindergarten this August it will probably take him a while to adjust since he will be one of a few children who has never been in this kind of environment. I know he will get through it. Everyone does. But it's something as a parent that I worry a lot about. I just want him to be normal, have fun, do what he wants to do, and overall not be restricted by his shyness.
If you are an HSP/shy person or have a shy or highly sensitive child, what is working for you and your child? What books have you read and what do you recommend?
*** Don't forget to stop by AMOMSREVIEW.COM to enter to win an LTDchix.com T-shirt today! We are giving 2 of these super stylish mommy tees away!
Our son interacts wonderfully in small groups or with family. For example, if there is one child on the playground he has no problem interacting with them. However, if you place him in a big group of 10 or more kids he doesn't do well. When he is put into a new situation or in a large group of kids, he becomes withdrawn and fails to interact. It's like he's overstimulated.
I never imagined having such as shy child because my husband is extremely outgoing and even though I was shy as a child, I'm no longer shy as an adult. Our nearly 3 year old is also very outgoing and makes friends very easily. Sometimes our soon to be 3 year old can even be a little obnoxious.
It's hard as a parent to sit and watch your child exhibit shyness and not really understand why they feel and act that way other than being given the explanation that it's mostly genetic. He also lacks some social skills because at 6 years old he has never been in daycare, preschool, or any other structured daily activities other than sports. I have been fortunate enough that both of our kids have not had to ever go to daycare or preschool since I work from home. But looking back maybe our son needed preschool to prepare or to at least get some structure. I know as he enters Kindergarten this August it will probably take him a while to adjust since he will be one of a few children who has never been in this kind of environment. I know he will get through it. Everyone does. But it's something as a parent that I worry a lot about. I just want him to be normal, have fun, do what he wants to do, and overall not be restricted by his shyness.
If you are an HSP/shy person or have a shy or highly sensitive child, what is working for you and your child? What books have you read and what do you recommend?
*** Don't forget to stop by AMOMSREVIEW.COM to enter to win an LTDchix.com T-shirt today! We are giving 2 of these super stylish mommy tees away!
Labels: highly sensitive child, hsp, kindergarten, shy child, shyness
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