Mommy Wars

It looks like the Mommy Wars discussions aren't going to be stopping anytime soon. I know some of you coming here are wondering what the Mommy Wars are actually all about so I will update you on that.

What are the Mommy Wars?

The Mommy Wars starts with working moms vs. stay at home moms.  The problem arises when one decides their decision is the right one and ridicules the other one over it. Last year, Linda Hirshman stated on national TV that college educated women who stay at home to raise their children were a tragedy to themselves and their children. So, ultimately, the thought of mommy wars is in our heads and in society on a daily basis. We are treated differently as moms when we say we stay at home with our kids and when we say we work outside the home and have some else take care of our kids. Either way, someone is going to think what we do is wrong. There is no right answer for everyone. It comes down to what is best for you and your family. 

Why does it matter?

The issue of mommy wars matters because it makes moms feel unworthy, have less confidence in their decisions, and constantly makes them rethink their decisions wondering if what their doing is right. It creates more mommy guilt and we do not need more mommy guilt. We, as moms, need support because we do the most important job in the world, which is raising our children.

Shouldn't we as moms support each other?

Definitely! Moms from all walks of life whether you stay at home, work out of the home, or work at home should support other moms decisions. We all come from different families and everyone's circumstances are different. Some of us have the opportunity to stay at home and some do not. Some choose to work out of the home because they want to. Regardless of what any moms chooses, we should all choose to support each other as long as we love and take of our children.

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I actually wrote this comment in response to a mommy wars post here and a post here  on the mommy wars.

I think we all have an inherent tendency to stick with people that we can relate to and are somewhat like. With that, we begin to divide into groups even as moms.
My blog is called a mom blog because I am a mom who just so happens to blog and I titled it that way so that other "moms" could find me in the search engines. My children call me mom and mommy and I don't care what everyone else labels or calls me. I honestly don't have the time to waste on it. With my blog being titled mom & baby blog, I think I am expected to write about mommyhood and I do. I don't pretend to be a great writer. I just write about my life as a mom so that other moms out there can find me, connect with me, and say I know what you are going through.

I think as moms/mommys we want support and someone to identify with. When other moms or whoever reads one of the mom blogs where everything is all happy -go- lucky/perfect 100% of the time, other moms can't identify or think it's boring. Let's face it nobody’s life is perfect but that doesn’t mean that in order to be accepted that the mom absolutely must reveal the crazy, stressful or bad things in their lives. Do they?

The most important thing I think everyone should take from the mom/mommy wars is that we, as moms, should not degrade other moms. We should support each other no matter what group of moms we end up falling into…

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